|...to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.|
I woke up with some inspiration to address this idea of a Husband Loving God more than His wife. How did it make you feel when you first read the title? Did it bring a positive or negative internal response? Maybe some of us just don't know how to think of this idea?
In the modern age we live in women are being raised with an understanding that they deserve many things from life. "The Wordly Ideal Husband" allows his wife to: have her own bank account, work her own job, hires a nanny for her, she can go where she wants, when she wants, compliments her wearing new fashion trends, is happy to spend large sums of money to make her comfortable (buying the newest in appliances, cars, etc), is happy to entertain & accept all her friends, gives her his full attention when she wants it & pampers her with physical attention & affection.
How many of the ideas listed above do you agree with, & wish your husband did too?
What kind of Husband does God want us to have?
Will the ways of the "Wordly Ideal Husband" lead us to eternity with Christ?
If we truly desire eternity with Christ then we will be able to discern that the "Wordly Ideal Husband" with all his desires to please us, is simply going to spoil us rotten by allowing us to be entertained & distracted by a life that will never bring us into a life of eternity with Christ.
When we find ourselves wishing our husband was more like the "Worldly Ideal Husband" we must honestly examine our state...is my purpose in this life to be happy, or is it to fulfill the will of God? Hmm..many believe God's earnest desire is to make us feel happy & loved in this life. If this were so we'd be more like the Master & God our servant. I see that these thoughts are opening doors to bigger & greater thoughts of interest...so, how to stay on the topic...
Once we have honestly determined if our present state has been to be a woman of God, a Christian, a godly wife, then we can go from there. Perhaps we have the desire to be such, but we have allowed ourselves to be distracted with the cares of this life...repent & get back on track. Or maybe we have been identifying ourselves as Christian in name, but the truth is, we do not desire the things of Chist, we love this present world & desire a "Worldy Ideal Husband". If this is you dear reader, I ask you to thoroughly consider the end of your desire... "For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?"Matthew 16:26
What will it profit you to have the good things of this life? Notice what Christ said just before the above statement:
Matthew 16:25 "For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. "
He said, "If any" that refers to anyone, man or woman that wants to follow Him, be Christ like (Christian) must deny "self" & take up a cross (a painful experience), & lose their life.
Notice also that He follows these statements with, Matthew16:27 "For the Son of man shall come in the glory of his Father with his angels; and then he shall reward every man according to his works."
Life on earth for those who choose to be Christian will be full of self-denial & painful experiences. But notice that their will be a "reward" to those who choose to lose their life here.
Nevertheless, true love does not choose to follow another for the sake of the reward. So, a wife should not choose to follow her husband for the pleasures she will recieve for doing so. The purpose of being a wife, as God created it to be, as mentioned by God in Genesis 2:18 "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." We are to be HELP MEETS.
We choose to serve God & our husbands simply because we love them self-lessly. And we see clearly in 1 Corinthians 13:5 Charity also known as agape / love does not seek her own,
"Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; "
The word seeketh here is also defined as by the Strongs Concordance as (the original Greek word)
G2212 ζητέω zēteō dzay-teh'-o Of uncertain affinity; to seek (literally or figuratively); specifically (by Hebraism) to worship (God), or (in a bad sense) to plot (against life): - be (go) about, desire, endeavour, enquire (for), require, (X will) seek (after, for, means). Compare G4441.
This definition can bring more thought to the idea, Love does not plot to, or desire to, or endeavour to, gain for itself. This world has painted a pretty picture that marriage is for the sake of living "Happily Ever After". The truth is if we are going to live Happily Ever After we must submit & subject ourselves to the mind of Christ. The mind of Christ is so opposite of our present time, philosophies, psychology, & professing Christian mentality. So long as we are expecting the fairy tale marriage, we will not be happy if we truly love Christ. If we truly love Christ, we will see that marriage will provide many opportunities to deny our personal desires. And when those opportunities come we will not be offended.
" ... Get thee behind me, Satan: thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men."
When we hold to our reasonable desires we are saying to God as Peter did, "... Be it far from thee, Lord: this shall not be unto thee." Matthew 16:2
I hope this is as convicting to the readers as it is to me. As dedicated to Christ as one may be, we must always examine & keep our hearts with all diligence. Our desires can very subtly get off track and we can fall into the place that Peter was in. We can believe we are for the Lord; when in truth, during our daily reality we are rebuking His will when He presents it to us through situations that are contrary to our desire.
The Husband that Loves God More than His Wife...
The Husband that loves God more than his wife is plainly fulling the will of God, read what Christ says to the multitudes,
"If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple."
Christ is calling men to love Him above any family member, above his wife & even his own life, & to endure a cross bearing (painful) life as He Himself did. For those who believe that He is a God of Love, they will also trust that all the pain & discomforts we suffer in this life, for the sake of obeying Him will be worth it when it comes to the life of eternity that He would much rather give us.
The Husband that loves God more than his wife has his heart set on a life of eternity with Christ & that is why he is not moved as other men by the comforts & ease of this life. When he is strong for Christ, he fears not the face & rejection of other men when it comes to obeying His God. When he is strong for Christ he will risk disappointing his wife for the sake of pleasing God.
Dear sisters, the Husband that loves God more than his wife is worth more than all the treasures & pleasures this world has to offer. The Husband that loves God more than his wife:
will be faithfuly commited to her (in the sense that he will not seek another woman), will seek the best for her eternal welfare, will diligently watch for her soul that she spends not her time in vanity & idleness, he will happily provide for the physical needs of his wife, he will gladly comfort her (according to the will of God), he will protect her from worldly influences (including those she would call "friends"), he will encourage her to be a keeper of the home & a godly influence to the children, he will expect her to submit to him, as he himself is submitting himself to the Lord, he will expect her to trust the Lord, & subject herself to him even when he may be in error,( because an erring husband is won by our chaste & God fearing responses [ 1 Peter 3:1-2 "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear."] ) he will expect her to be meek & quiet especially at times she does not agree,...
A woman who has such a precious (of great value or worth; very valuable) husband as just described may find:
that she doesn't live in the house of her dreams, or drive the greatest car, she may not even have a car, & at times she may find herself as Christ with no certain place to lay her head, she may not be able to do what she wants when she wants, she may be often corrected by him (as he desires to keep her on the narrow path), she may not be able to wear the style of her choice, she may lose "friends" & family because of the path her God-fearing husband is leading her on,...her life will not reflect the fairy tale marriage.
The Word of God asks, "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."
A godly woman is a precious find; and as far as a godly man, the Psalmist says,
"Help, LORD; for the godly man ceaseth; for the faithful fail from among the children of men."Psalm 12:1
All this being said, if you have a husband that fears to offend God more than he fears to offend you; you are truly blessed & have a reason for praising God for His mercy toward you. Your God fearing husband may make mistakes as he seeks to do what is pleasing to God, but he loves you more than any "Worldly Ideal Husband" ever could. Support him, be his helpmeet, help him in his endeavor to lead you to eternity with Christ, trust the Lord to lead your husband for your good.
Be assured that if you submit he will faithfully fulfill his vows to you; a rare happening in our times,"...to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part."