Saturday, November 23, 2013

Wife you are not a dog at your husbands feet!

Society has had many changes since the time of Christ, knowledge has increased, technology has taken the place of human labor, the common labors of women have been cut short, but somehow we still find ourselves too busy!?

 Some things haven't changed; although people have tried to change them, & have brought much confusion into our modern world. God created man in His own image & gave him dominion over all the creatures of the earth (Genesis 1:26) When Adam & Eve sinned in the Garden there was a consequence, "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee." (Genesis 3:16) These days women can simply receive a shot when giving birth to numb the pain God intended them to feel. Many things in this modern society are designed to numb pain. But it seems to me like an abnormal amount of people are suffering regardless of all the inventions to eliminate suffering. In my life I have found much grace through the things I have suffered ( Grace defined as = "For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,  Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;" Titus 2:11-12) Pain has helped me to reverence/fear God & forsake the things in my life that grieve Him. Many people try so hard to escape pain, not realizing that they may also be hindering the Amazing Grace God would have given them through that pain. As a woman when she brings forth a child; when the woman chooses to endure the pain, the greater the love/bond it can bring between her & her child.
  Not only did God appoint women to bring forth a child in sorrow... "A woman when she is in travail hath sorrow, because her hour is come: but as soon as she is delivered of the child, she remembereth no more the anguish, for joy that a man is born into the world." (Jn.16:21) At the end of that pain Joy awaits. God is a God of mercy, but He does not promise a life on earth without pain & sorrow. Yet, through our submission & surrender to Him & His plan for our lives at the end of this earthly life we have the hope of Joy eternal ("Verily, verily, I say unto you, That ye shall weep and lament, but the world shall rejoice: and ye shall be sorrowful, but your sorrow shall be turned into joy." Jn.16:20) So, the second thing God ordained for women = "thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee." This is another establishment of God our modern society has rebelled against to their own hurt.
  If you study the history of modern society in America I believe you will see that society as a whole began taking a gradual fall as women pressed their will to be liberated from the rule of man. Here's some examples:
“In 1975, 47% of mothers with children under 18 participated in the U.S. labor force.
 By 2007, 32years later, that proportion had risen to 71%” (Galinsky, Aumann, & Bond, 2008, p. 4).
And as I'm sure you have heard by 1980 1 out of every 2 marriages ended in divorce. Women left their place as a keeper of the home... ("That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,  To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." Titus 2:4-5)  
They left the place God ordained for them which has resulted in a society full of a domino effect of problems: Divorce...depression in children & adults...children being labeled with new psychological/behavioral problems...increase in violent behaviors among children...etc.
Many young women of today lack the example of a wife who stays in the place God ordained for her. They are being taught to "Seek their own" & to be "self-empowered". These teachings are anti-Christ. The very definition of love in 1Cor.13 clearly states,
 "Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;"
There is little to no reality that God ordained the man to rule over the woman. Those who lack the understanding of God's goodness have seen this ordination of God as an evil thing; calling His good evil. When in reality it is evil, & results in terrible consequences when people rebel against God & refuse to submit to this order. God did not ordain man to rule over women in an ungodly & abusive way. He wants them to rule their house well. He wants men to teach his family His commandments. God wants..."the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband." (1Cor.7:3)
 "For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,"
Eph. 5:23-26
The husband should have this power over his wife that he may wash her with the Word of God & present her blameless to God. Man is going to be held responsible for his wife. This is a burden that man must bear. The woman ordained to be the helpmeet of man must then subject herself to her husband in all things that he can have Joy over a wife that trusts her life into the hands of God by submitting to her husband. This is where faith comes in. I believe this is where peace/ prosperity comes into the home. A woman that trusts God enough to believe that if she submits to her husband (even in things she doesn't have confidence in or understand) God will bless her latter end. It is the same concept of enduring pain & suffering; (for the Love of God) He will reward those who through obedience to Him endure.

These days the hearts of women are defiled with a concept that their opinions & desires should have power over a man’s. That is not to say that women are without good desires or opinions; or that a man should care-less to hear them. It rather means that a woman should not demand or expect of her husband his preference for her will or opinion over his. He will be the one held responsible for their lives; He will have to answer to God for the choices made in their lives ( that is not to say she will not have her own judgment to bear). We need women to bring back the example of Sarah, "Through faith also Sara herself received strength to conceive seed, and was delivered of a child when she was past age, because she judged him faithful who had promised." Heb.11:11 She trusted in God & subjected herself to the pain of travail & that in her old age! Not only was she subject to the 1 st ordination of God upon women but also to the second, "Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement." 1Pt.3:6 She called her husband lord! Was it only because he was a good husband? Was it only because he treated her like a queen, submitted to her opinions? Or was it simply because "For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord:" I "Googled" a definition for lord & it said, "someone or something having power, authority, or influence; a master or ruler."

Definition of lord from The Merriam-Webster : 

  one having power and authority over others:

a :  a ruler by hereditary right or preeminence to whom service and obedience are due b :  one of whom a fee or estate is held in feudal tenure c :  an owner of land or other real property d obsolete :  the male head of a household e :  husband f :  one that has achieved mastery or that exercises leadership or great power in some area 
  Satan would have women entertaining modern ideas that to fulfill the Biblical role of a wife is nothing more than being as a dog at your husband's feet. But a meek & honest heart will discern from the Scriptures that God is not requiring woman to do anything different than He is requiring man to do for Him. Man & woman must submit to Christ. A man in submission to his LORD does not make him a dog nor does a woman submitting to her LORD & her lord. We are all taught to be as Christ "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.   Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:"
Php 2:3-5 This is not the mind of a dog. The mind of Christ is servitude, & self-denial. The mind of a dog is eat, sleep, & mate. A dogs character is closer to that of the modern woman rather than the Holy Women Of Old, who in meekness & humility submitted themselves to their husband as lord.

When women marry the lordship of their father's then becomes their husband's. We become their helpmeet. The commandments of God are not grievous. I believe that there is much power & grace in a woman who fears the LORD & let's her husband be her lord. I believe that a woman who is obedient & meekly obeys her husband, will bring about a godly change in her husband, (if there needs to be one) & be the example of strength & power her children need more than any "super-woman/man" action figure!
 O that women would rise up to redeem the daughters of Sara rather than "seek their own". O, that we could renew the hearts & minds of daughters to labor in love for God & their husbands & fear not to submit to them in all things! What peace would come into the homes & then generate into society!


  1. Love this! I believe a few bad apples have made the whole concept sour to some?
    The Bible says for women to submit to our husbands,... but wait- there's more; HUSBANDS ARE TO LOVE THEIR WIVES AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH.

    Men clearly have the higher calling but some folks just leave the second part of that scripture out. Why is that??

    Well, in a healthy marraige, (even in biblical marraiges, you will see this) there is conversation and consideration in all. Mutual respect and each one loves each other with all compassion. Not men taking advantage of a womans place,... but men trusting women to do their job as a helpmeet. Women respect your husbands and never do anything to make him second guess you. It's a relationship, and God has given us a lot of freedom in it.

  2. Amen, Kelly! Thank you for bearing witness to this Truth. It is pure rebellion that likes to ignore the fact that there is suppose to be a mutual love & respect. Although, like you said a few bad & women have abused eachother & mis-used Scripture to do so. Appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts.